"Passively Aggressive."

Many people today will insult you through a text message, demean you through social media and will ignore you. What a lot of people do not do, is address the issue face to face. In the last fifteen years, we have seen this behavior grow completely out of control, and preventive awareness like that of cyber bullying have surfaced. 

Personally, I have relatives that will only speak to me when things are going well, and will completely elude any discussion about hardship. I began to question why I was being ignored, or why people would text message me rather than call. Recently, I even received a degrading text message from a member of senior management for not calling to let them know I would not be coming in for a position that was at the very least "entry level." This issue is growing substantially throughout our nation, and I am sure on a global level as well....but why?

Is it because technology has allowed us to avoid direct confrontation? It is funny now a days to watch someone that is confronted directly. Usually, they have absolutely no idea how to react. In my opinion, this is from staring at a screen for too long, and losing complete touch with reality. So what is passive aggression? 


"Passive-aggressive behavior is the indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, controlling, stubbornness, sullen behavior, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible." This states that people will avoid talking to you, but through their actions, will display hatred or negativity in your direction. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen this. Let me tell you guys, this is harmful and childish, and you should really look at your actions and ask this question....Is this helping my emotional anguish toward the individual? God forbid, people actually approach the person and have an adult conversation, and work through their differences. So again....why?

I have come to realize that many people stopped emotionally developing and growing, since they were a child. This prevents them from being able to successfully handle pressure, and uncomfortable situations. This stems from simple things, like someone disagreeing with them when they were young, and they became embarrassed. It also could stem from a poor relationship, or a conflict that went poorly. People hang on to this fear, rather than facing it, and learning how to apply emotionally intellectual skill sets for forthcoming encounters. It's strange...looking back, I can actually remember people I thought were close to me, speaking about kicking me out, or things I had said that they did not like. The common factor is, I always found out through OTHER people. Just remember....people talk, and will most likely find out. This will only further damage you. The point guys....Don't drink poison and expect someone else to die. What are your thoughts? Have you done this? I am willing to bet you may be doing it currently. Think about it. Ta ta folks.